He moved back to Syria for college, just before the war, then had to flee to South Africa — where he now lives. The gay Syrian, who goes by the nickname Nano, is now telling his life story through a personal online blog entitled Diary of a Gay Arab Man. Rape, sexual assault and sexual abuse are all topics we avoid talking about. Most of us who went through it have a hard time opening up about it. I struggled for years in coming to terms with what happened to me and I am finally ready to share it. I am sharing this because I need to own my story and destiny.
Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence, Child Abuse Statistics
Sexual violence affects people of every gender identity, and sexual orientation. People who identify as part of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer LGBTQ communities also experience sexual violence, and may face different or additional challenges in accessing legal, medical, law enforcement or other resources than other populations. As an LGBTQ survivor of sexual violence, you may face many of the same emotions and challenges as other survivors, but also might encounter additional hurdles. Below are some common reactions to experiencing sexual violence that both LGBTQ survivors and others may experience. The reaction of the first person a survivor discloses to can affect if they choose to tell others or seek additional resources.
Many sexual abuse survivors struggle to have positive and enjoyable sex lives. It can be very hard to feel comfortable with and enjoy sex when you've been sexually abused. Even people who haven't been sexually abused struggle to feel comfortable with their sexuality and sex.
MeToo is still making its mark. It has already taken down hundreds of allegedly abusive and wicked men, resulted in policy changes across industries and brought about a shift in the culture that is more accepting of those who report sexual abuse. After listening to a presentation on the topic of consent and sexual violence, I realized that I had been assaulted. This story is probably, and sadly, familiar: I drank too much at a high school party during my senior year. I was unable to consent and I barely remember the encounter.